Thursday, November 12, 2009

On Intensity

Anyone that knows me personally knows that I am a very intense individual. This intensity of purpose and drive is extremely valuable in a business environment especially being a start-up. I set very aggressive goals for myself personally and professionally. One of my favorite quotes is, "Aim for the moon at the very least you will land among the stars."

While in business this level of intensity is very much a prerequisite in social and personal circles it can be easily misunderstood. I know this from many years of personal experience. One of my greatest weaknesses is my ability to, "Turn it off," and just let things be. I've been reminded on several occasions recently on why this level of intensity is not constructive in interpersonal relationships. Over the years I can't count how many friendships and relationships have been strained because of it. Not the least of which is that with my immediate family.

Last year I was so focused on saving my faltering business that I fore goed attending Thanksgiving and Christmas festivities. I rationalized this by telling myself that I needed to work harder than anyone else to show my dedication to my clients. Needless to say many family members were not very happy at my decision. The scary part is that I didn't learn from that and am contemplating the very same decision this year. I'm a little hard headed that way.

What's worse is when it comes to the fairer sex. I do not fall often, and I honestly don't go out looking for relationships. When I do fall however it is very hard and very fast. Couple that with my inability to censor myself on most occasions and it can be very intimidating for most young ladies. Again, I recognize the behavior but for some reason unbeknownst to me I cannot seem to temper it. This is very disconcerting for someone who preaches the belief that everything in life is a choice.

Being goal driven is not a bad thing when it comes to business or personal growth. However it should have no place in the courting process. A relationship is not a goal to be achieved, it is a delicate rose to be cultivated and nurtured very gently. Logically I understand this and pray that I can find the strength of will to implement the changes within myself to achieve this level of tranquility. Until then I hope to find a strong woman with a great deal of patience to tolerate me while I work through this. I haven't found her yet, but I pray that she's out there somewhere.

Friday, November 6, 2009

Hold On To Your Vision

In this post I'm going to expound on both the benefits and the necessity of having a clearly defined vision. This should be nothing new as I generally prologue most of my entries with such an example. I feel that as we are slowly starting to see the signs of economic recovery it is important for us to take the lessons learned and apply them moving forward.

As I look back over the last year there have been a lot of ups and downs personally and professionally. The thing that has kept me pushing forward and prevented me from loosing all hope has been my vision. My vision for Stigmare, my vision for Emerald City Fashion Week, and my vision for the philanthropy I want to perform. It is easy when times are tough to fall into a victim mentality and blame everything around you for your failures and short comings. This is a choice and it is one that I refuse to make.

This time last year I was enjoying cocktails at the Columbia Tower Club, serving on the clubs Tower 39 Board, Membership Committee and Business Forum Committee. I still had my dream car, a black on black SLK 320, and a nice house in the Newcastle area south of Bellevue. Today I ride Metro because I could no longer afford my car. I have a small two bedroom apartment in the Fairwood area of Renton, and I've had to leave the Tower Club. I don't say this to brag or seek sympathy but to illustrate that we are not the sum of our circumstances.

While I have been humbled and have a greater appreciation for the small blessings in my life I am still essentially the same man. I have achieved success once I will achieve it again, because I have a clear vision of what that success is to me. It is not soully financial, all though without finances the other aspects of what I consider to be success are next to impossible. I've always believed money to be a tool, as impartial as a hammer or an automobile. It is the intent of the user that determines the justness of its use.

What is this vision that drives me, and allows me to be the duck on the pond gracefully gliding across the water's surface all the while paddling like a mad man underneath. Well you are all aware of my vision for Stigmare if you have ready any of my recent posts. While I talk a great deal about Emerald City Fashion Week on Twitter I have not shared my full vision with you. Nor have I really gone into the full scope of what I wish to accomplish philanthropically either. Well I shall rectify both of those now as I firmly believe that until you put it out into the universe it will never happen. A lesson learned from, "Think and Grow Rich" and other books on success principles.

Twenty years from now I envision Emerald City Fashion Week to be an epicenter for the Northwest and Pacific Rim fashion industry with designers, manufacturers, industry experts and suppliers from around the world converging on Seattle. Designers will be offered continuing education opportunities and trend forecasting enabling them to better apply their craft. Design houses will flourish in SODO and the Georgetown area. Suppliers will have set up distributors in the area and will showcase the latest materials. On and off shore manufacturers will compete for the mass production of goods for distribution to major retailers. The city will come together for a grand spectacle celebrating the art and function of fashion of all kinds. All of which will bring credibility to the industry in Seattle and increase employment and the local tax base.

As for my philanthropic goals, the most pressing of these is my desire to give back to my almamater. I have put it out there on many occasions that one goal is to be able to provide 250 full ride scholarships a year to the Albers School of Business and Economics at Seattle University. I owe so much to Seattle University for giving me the tools to apply my craft, teaching me to be a perpetual student and instilling in me a sense of civic responsibility beyond my military career. I see what's happening with my brothers-in-arms coming back from war zones and not re acclimating well and know that I am not doing enough currently to help them and want to rectify that.

I have long dreamed of setting up a mentorship program for veterans by veterans. We have a habit of not lending much credibility to someone that hasn't been there, done that. There are countless examples of veterans that have gone on to be highly successful in the civilian world after leaving the military. These young Marines, Sailors, Soldiers and Airmen need to know there is a whole life available for the taking after exiting the service. I never want to see another veteran on the side of the road pan handling again, they have given to much to all of us to suffer that fate. These men and women need the tools to retrain themselves and a supportive hand to help them through the transition which I still suffer with today.

These are just a few of the visions which drive me forward. They are my purpose for being here and I will not give up until they are obtained. No one can convince me otherwise. When I am struggling and things appear bleak I try to consciously refocus on them and regain my bearings. What drives you, what is your vision, do you know or are you still searching for it? Follow your passion, I dare you.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Wow, a designer from Australia is interested in showing at ECFW!!! That Rocks!!!

Monday, October 12, 2009

Bellevue Tweet Up Statistics

I was recently sent the following email from my good friend and Bellevue Tweet-Up Co-organizer Jean-Luc David of Microsoft. Jean-Luc and I met on Twitter and one day over coffee we were discussing the fact that there wasn't a regular event on the Eastside. We decided to create our own and are about to put on our seventh one this month.

I hope you find as much value in this information as Jean-Luc and I did. It's nice to see something you helped to create flourish like this.

Hey Steven,

Thought I would share some interesting stats with you. Total of 863 tweets and 320 attendee confirmations across 6 Bellevue Tweetup events.

Breakdown:

• Bellevue Tweetup 6.0 (http://twtvite.com/8aslat) - 140 Tweets/Mentions, 55 Confirmed Attendees
• Bellevue Tweetup 5.0 (http://twtvite.com/5q3ngp) - 78 Tweets/Mentions, 33 Confirmed Attendees
• Bellevue Tweetup 4.0 (http://twtvite.com/jl8r4f) - 183 Tweets/Mentions, 54 Confirmed Attendees
• Bellevue Tweetup 3.0 (http://twtvite.com/w51zy6) - 87 Tweets/Mentions, 50 Confirmed Attendees
• Bellevue Tweetup 2.0 (http://twtvite.com/0laloj) - 258 Tweets/Mentions, 82 Confirmed Attendees
• Bellevue Tweetup 1.0 (http://twtvite.com/sjcvj9) - 117 Tweets/Mentions, 46 Confirmed Attendees

Online References:

• Promo from influentials such as Chris Pirillo - example: http://www.koornk.com/status/630061/ http://chris.pirillo.com/social-media-updates-for-2009-06-21/
• Mashable (photos not visible): http://my.mashable.com/photo/view/id/7902bb56eb5ed42619bab6d3834c8697/page/4
• East Side Journal: http://eastsidebusinessjournal.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=3237&Itemid=2
• Bill Wixley (Q13 Reporter): http://blog.billwixey.com/2009/07/04/a-little-help-from-my-friends.aspx
• Social Media Club Seattle: http://twitter.com/SMCSeattle/statuses/4150301122
• Photos from the events: http://www.flickr.com/photos/jldavid/collections/72157622082077366/

Conclusions:


• Bellevue Tweetup 2.0 got high interest, attendance and “juice” due to several mentions by Chris Pirillo. We should get him promoting & involved at our future events.
• The events you organize tend to have more attendees. The tweet count is also higher and it appears you tweet more about the events when you directly organize them. ;-)
• The average number of attendees at our events is 53 and we on average get 144 tweets. We don’t appear to be increasing or decreasing attendees - seems to be relatively constant.

Cheers,

Jean-Luc David
Field Readiness & Community Team | Developer & Platform Evangelism

Thursday, October 8, 2009

Why I Tweet

This morning I had the great pleasure to connect with Tac Anderson in person over coffee. I began following Tac on Twitter as a result of a recommendation by a mutual friend Jeremy. He's a brilliant man who recently transplanted to the Bellevue, WA area to take a position with Weggener Edstrom Worldwide. I truly enjoy his insights into social media and PR in general. I was disappointed to find out that he had been to two of the Tweet-ups I help organize and this was the first time we were meeting in real life.

Our conversation was light and casual. We didn't get into to much other than really just feeling each other out and comparing backgrounds. What I was really struck by and have been pondering was Tac's comment that when giving my story I really didn't mention social media. In looking back on the conversation I'm curious as to why that was?

I am truly still adjusting to some of the notoriety that social media, and Twitter in particular has brought me. Some days better than others. I have my moments where I am very humbled by it and others where I embrace it a little too much almost to the point of arrogance. I by no means consider myself and expert or guru on social media. In fact I described myself to Tac as a glorified carnival barker.

To me Twitter is just another way to build my personal brand, my business and communicate with like minded individuals. I like the concept of proving value first by offering relevant content, and measurable results. The fashion week we are producing is an excellent example of that. The entire project was born as a result of a tweet and my followers holding me accountable to statements made. It's amazing and at the same time daunting the power a 140 character post can have.

Twitter has brought me so many blessings in the form of business connections, new friendships and ideas. I love that I can now discuss my craft with people from all over the globe in real time gaining new persptectives and insights. Twitter has also become a great platform for promoting local activism and community involvement. Our local blood bank has really grabbed social media by the horns and ran with it. They regularly hold Tweet-up Blood Drives, its wonderful.

These are but a few of the reasons that I use social media. I look forward to seeing how things evolve, and maybe in time I'll be comfortable with some of the accolades I've received. Until then I will continue to be a student of the medium.

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

On Transparency

In this era of Social Media there has been a lot of talk about personal branding, how much is too much information and the role transparency plays in business. I've adopted a very simple rule when it comes to my activities on the different social media platforms. Don't put anything online you wouldn't want your Grandmother to know.

With that being said, I whole heartily believe in being as transparent as possible. If you have nothing to hide and are willing to be held accountable where's the harm. I am fully aware that I am not every one's cup of tea. As a matter of fact I liken myself to Scotch in that I am an acquired taste.

I have a very defined set of personal standards and beliefs that I am not easily swayed from. I know exactly who I am and what I stand for, and as the song goes "you've got to stand for something or you'll fall for anything." I love Aaron Tippin's music. As such I am more than willing to accept the consequences of my thoughts, words and actions be they good or bad. To many that I encounter this a source of amusement and perplexity.

I should qualify this with the fact that I was a Sergeant in the Marine Corps, so concepts of Honor, Integrity and Commitment are guiding principles. It is odd to think that such traits are considered to be out of step with contemporary society. I have actually had people react negatively to my holding my ground and not compromising my own morality and ethics. Many making defamatory and honestly hurtful comments because this is so foreign to them.

Don't get me wrong, I have never been one to give much credence to what others think of me. Lincoln said it best when he made the statement, "you can't be all things to all people." At least I believe it was Lincoln that said that. The point of all of this rambling is simply this. Be true to who and what you are. Don't worry about what other's will say as there will always be critics.

I say this from first hand experience. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and vocalize my intentions. This can be both a blessing and a curse. I recently fell for an amazing young woman I met through the social media community here in Seattle. It wasn't something I was looking for, and shocked me as much as anyone else. The intensity of the feeling was overwhelming and just being around her was intoxicating. I made it known quite publicly how I felt about this woman. One small snag, the feelings were not mutual.

In an effort to win the object of my affection I attempted in vein to mold myself into the person she wanted me to be. This only served to exasperate the situation and cause me a great deal of frustration. It was not her fault, as I am the one that made the choice to follow my heart despite the logic of the situation. We were simply in different places and I still care for her and believe her to be an amazing woman.

In my zeal to obtain the object of my desire I did some things I am not proud of. Not the least of which is betraying her trust and confidence. For that I sincerely apologize and I hope in time she may forgive me and we can resume our friendship. I've since moved on and resumed dating, but she still holds a special place in my heart. The woman I am currently seeing is amazingly supportive and has been very patient with me while I make this transition.

Thank you for indulging me once again. I hope my confessional was helpful to you in your life somehow, and I would welcome any comments you may have.

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Renewed Drive

Being a start-up CEO is a lot like being bi-polar, you are subject to extreme highs and lows in both attitude and energy level. Unlike someone afflicted with such a condition medically however we are in complete control of how this affects us and those around us. In recent months I personally have gone through some challenges with this and I'm here to tell you there is a light at the end of the tunnel.


I've decided that this blog would better serve you my loyal readers as an account of the trials, tribulations, and rewards of being a start-up entrepreneur. I have had my fair share of ups and downs but have recently been blessed with a resurgence of energy, motivation, and dogged determination to see my venture succeed. I wish that I could say that this was entirely my own doing, but sometimes these things require an outside stimulus.

As a result of this stimulus more has been accomplished with Stigmare and Emerald City Fashion Week in the last month than in the previous three combined. Emerald City Fashion Week in particular has gained a tremendous amount of momentum both on and off of Twitter. I Hope that you will pardon my vagueness as to the nature of this stimulus, be assured it is a positive influence. Maybe at some point in the future I will be more transparent as to its nature, but for now discretion is the better part of valor.

If there is a message I would want you to take away from my rambling here it would be this. Never loose faith in your vision and passion. Have absolute confidence in that fact that if you firmly believe in your dream you can bring it to fruition. Focus your mind on the smallest of details. I can see the vision of what Stigmare will be so clearly in my mind that I can smell the coffee in the breakroom and hear the clicking of heels on the marble entry of our chic downtown office. It is this level of clarity and passion you need if you are to see your vision come to pass.

Thank you for indulging me once again, and I leave you with one of my favorite quotes.

"We are what we repeatedly do. Exellence then is not and act, but a habit." Aristotle